Get Tough!

"One of the mental toughness secrets of the world class is laughing in the face of pressure, pain, and fear. No matter how big the problem may seem, it won't matter in 100 years. A good mental strategy is doing the opposite of the masses. When the masses are freaking out, you should be laughing. This isn't frivolous, it's street smart. The middle class performer waking up at night worried about the economy is the victim of his/her own fear based thinking. Scared people make short term, irrational decisions. Stay strong and clear headed by hanging loose and laughing at the folly of life. If you can, you'll be happier and more creative in problem solving when times are tough, and you'll be unstoppable and even happier when good times return. The million dollar bonus is once you've stared fear in the face and prospered, you'll never be afraid of tough times again." -Steve Siebold, CSP

Seriously sista...This man's quote is an asset to your "mental cashflow statement." If you think back and consider all of the things in life that you chose not to do simply because of pressure, pain, or fear, then I am sure you would probably want to step on your own foot. Well...you have been stepping on your own foot the whole time, and quite possibly tripping over your own feet by allowing that fear to keep you from moving forward. You can fall down all day long, but just remember that the success is in getting back up again. Furthermore, learning and laughing about it brings positive increase to your character. So, go ahead and fall. Just remember to get up laughing. Seriously sista...we won't laugh at you, but we will laugh with you.

Check yourself!

Seriously sista...why are you concerned with what a man has? His car? His job? His money? His credit? His phsical appearance? Why is this even your first thought before you consider dating someone? Really, the first question should be, "What do I have?" I know that I may touch a few nerves with this one, but hear me out. If your standard for your own SELF is not perfect, then why should you expect the man that you date to be the ultimate in perfection? For example, if your credit is bad, then why is it a problem for his credit to be bad? If you are not physically fit, then why should he have to be? If you are not responsible, then why should he be responsible? My suggestion is simple. Check yourself! Get your house in order. Anyone full of negativity will only attract negativity. You get what you give, you reap what you sow, what goes around comes around. Figure out what it may be about you that you need to change. Men get enough of a bad rap. So, stop discouraging men with your negative conversations. Instead, encourage men to be better than their yesterday, and at the same time make sure you are doing what it takes to improve your situation. Contact an experienced financial planner, research investment opportunities, continue your education, give back to your community, and always make time for yourself and family. Let your positive actions, as well as attitude attract the kind of man you know you deserve. Finally, don't get weary in well doing. You may be single right now, but take this blessing of time and make the most of it. Use it to build up enough strength to set, and hold the bar high. Then, wait for Mr. Right to jump over it. Seriously sista...he just might land on one knee.

No Peeking!

Seriously sista...your past is only powerful if you allow it to be (thanks Mrs. Joyce). I know you have been tried on several occasions by issues that try to break you down. Issues that make you look back on past madness and quickly you compare it to present. I would suggest you leave the "buts" behind you, and press toward the high mark. Excellence is in front of you, and if you keep looking back chances are you will miss it. So, NO PEEKING! A great reference of encouragement is a book entitled "The Confident Woman" by Joyce Meyer. In this book she reveals seven secrets of a confident woman, and believe me, this is a good lesson for those of us that can't get pass our past. Understand that moving on won't be easy. It will take time to renew your mind. Keep in mind, though...the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step. Seriously sista...looking forward, take that first step.
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SELF...check!

Seriously Sista...women have been seen as second class citizens since the beginning of time. Women did put up with much mess both before, and after the women's movement. But past pains bring future gains. Gone are the days in which women could not vote, make decisions for themselves or their families, get educations, own property, run multi-million dollar organizations, and yes...even run for president. We have elevated ourselves to levels higher than what some of our past, as well as current male counterparts ever thought we could. And, still rising. However, there is something that we need to continuously consider. Our own SELF! Yes, that's right...you. Never forget to check your SELF. Are you eating right? Are you exercising your mind as well as your body? Are you spending time alone with you? Is your house in order mentally, physically, financially, and spiritually? What are you doing to move to that next level in life, your career, your relationship? I challenge you to love your SELF enough to check your SELF. No matter what your past says your SELF is precious, and "its price is far among rubies." Seriously Sista...you're worth it!