Check yourself!

Seriously sista...why are you concerned with what a man has? His car? His job? His money? His credit? His phsical appearance? Why is this even your first thought before you consider dating someone? Really, the first question should be, "What do I have?" I know that I may touch a few nerves with this one, but hear me out. If your standard for your own SELF is not perfect, then why should you expect the man that you date to be the ultimate in perfection? For example, if your credit is bad, then why is it a problem for his credit to be bad? If you are not physically fit, then why should he have to be? If you are not responsible, then why should he be responsible? My suggestion is simple. Check yourself! Get your house in order. Anyone full of negativity will only attract negativity. You get what you give, you reap what you sow, what goes around comes around. Figure out what it may be about you that you need to change. Men get enough of a bad rap. So, stop discouraging men with your negative conversations. Instead, encourage men to be better than their yesterday, and at the same time make sure you are doing what it takes to improve your situation. Contact an experienced financial planner, research investment opportunities, continue your education, give back to your community, and always make time for yourself and family. Let your positive actions, as well as attitude attract the kind of man you know you deserve. Finally, don't get weary in well doing. You may be single right now, but take this blessing of time and make the most of it. Use it to build up enough strength to set, and hold the bar high. Then, wait for Mr. Right to jump over it. Seriously sista...he just might land on one knee.