What's in a name?

Seriously sista, if God does not allow a man to eat if he doesn't work then why should we? I believe this to be true not only for food, but also for relationships. If a man does not put in the work required to be your husband, then why are you tooting his last name, and lying to the world and yourself by saying he is your husband. I notice this more in younger women that are not mature enough to know most mature men are not looking for "a free meal" to take advantage of. Unfortunately, some women are in a fantasy land of perfect marital bliss. So, the first man that gives them a little bit of attention is pegged as "the one." Then, after dating for a while lust shows up in full costume masqurading as love. Next, the man that once was your friend is now your fiancee without once asking you to marry him, or giving you a ring. You move in together, and still one lease later and no wedding date set you are now sporting his last name and calling him your husband. Don't set yourself up for a pointless breakdown when you can easily set yourself up for a positive breakthrough. Be prepared for Mr. Right by terminiating Mr. Wrong. The same characteristic you want in Mr. Right should be the same in you. If you want a man with good credit, then you should have good credit. If you want a man with a sable and productive income, the you should have a stable and productive income. I could go on and on with this, but I am sure you get the picture. Seriously sista...a little work won't hurt. Real men know and understand this concept. So don't surrender your last name as a payout to someone that doesn't fulfill the number one job requirement.

Unstick Stupid!

Seriously sista...If you are 19 years old in a relationship with a 29 year old man with three kids that doesn't approve of you doing things that 19 year olds do, and cannot figure out for yourself what you need to do to fix your situation, then you need more help than that of what Steve Harvey can advise. I must applaude and address the efforts of Steve Harvey. He has been coined as a guru on the male mentallity, and in an effort to make things better for us women he has decided to write a book, an advice column, and promote an online dating site. Well, thank you, Steve Harvey. Thank you for showing and telling women how to "unstick their stupid." I guess this is another thing that we women can give a man credit for. Instead of us realizing that when we trip over our own relationship mess that we need to clean it up ourselves, we can give all the credit for our relationship success (when or if it happens) to Steve Harvey. This is not a dis on Steve Harvey, but simply something for us as women to stop and think about. Steve can tell you what a man is thinking, and how he will use the information that results from his thinking process from the male perspective. However, only a women that knows you and what you have been through can tell you how to use the information that results from those bad decisions that you have made from a female perspective. That women is YOU! Seriously sistas, haven't we allowed ourselves to depend on the male perspective for long enough? When will we begin to think for ourselves? We do not need another man to tell us what we already know in our heart is wrong. We have all made bad choices. It is up to us to decide that we will make better choices by using our own God given sound mind and its ability to think and reason. Seriously sista...catch a clue...think it through...and do what is best for you!