What's in a name?

Seriously sista, if God does not allow a man to eat if he doesn't work then why should we? I believe this to be true not only for food, but also for relationships. If a man does not put in the work required to be your husband, then why are you tooting his last name, and lying to the world and yourself by saying he is your husband. I notice this more in younger women that are not mature enough to know most mature men are not looking for "a free meal" to take advantage of. Unfortunately, some women are in a fantasy land of perfect marital bliss. So, the first man that gives them a little bit of attention is pegged as "the one." Then, after dating for a while lust shows up in full costume masqurading as love. Next, the man that once was your friend is now your fiancee without once asking you to marry him, or giving you a ring. You move in together, and still one lease later and no wedding date set you are now sporting his last name and calling him your husband. Don't set yourself up for a pointless breakdown when you can easily set yourself up for a positive breakthrough. Be prepared for Mr. Right by terminiating Mr. Wrong. The same characteristic you want in Mr. Right should be the same in you. If you want a man with good credit, then you should have good credit. If you want a man with a sable and productive income, the you should have a stable and productive income. I could go on and on with this, but I am sure you get the picture. Seriously sista...a little work won't hurt. Real men know and understand this concept. So don't surrender your last name as a payout to someone that doesn't fulfill the number one job requirement.